Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Bullying Has Consequences- Sometimes Tragic Ones

This is such a tragic story. One that I just don't understand from either perspective. Today, I came across an article about a young 15 year old girl who committed suicide as the result of constant and persistent bullying at school. Nine students involved in the bullying were indicted on several disturbing counts including assault with a dangerous weapon and statutory rape.

My heart aches so much for this little girl and her parents. As a mother myself, and as a former bullied student, I can say that communication is imperative. I don't know the situation surrounding her relationship with her parents or loved ones, but I just can't help but to think (or hope) that if she talked with someone, this may have ended differently. I'm sure we all know now that high school seems like the peek of your life, if this time in your life is miserable, what's the point. If you're a loser now, you'll always be a loser.

Teenagers don't realize it's the very opposite. High school doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is that you finished it. My senior year of high school, one of my classmates committed suicide. I didn't know him very well. I had one class with him sophomore year and thought he was nice, quiet. Rumor had it that he was bullied and sick of being picked on and made fun of. The thing is, I never even noticed anyone picking on him or taunting him so horribly that he'd end his own life. So all in all, I don't know if it was just a rumor, or a reality, but I do know that maybe I would have payed more attention if I knew things like this actually happen in high school.

So now I plead for you to give your child a hug and let them know that they are loved unconditionally. No matter what anyone says, thinks, or does, you will always love them and would do anything for them.

4 comments:

Pres. Kathy said...

As a former teacher, I can tell you that bullying has a very bad affect on children. As parents, we must love our kids and be there for them. My prayers are with this child's parents.

Jessica said...

It seems like bullying in schools is a problem that is getting worse and worse and as a parent, and a person, I can't help but wonder what is going on! In so many cases it has become beyond mean - it is criminal. It's frightening what some kids are capable of and completely out of hand. Something needs to change!

alabaster cow said...

that's so horrific. i don't understand why people are so cruel.

it's a lesson to all of us to be kind in every circumstance.

Anonymous said...

All of this can be traced back to the homes of the bullies...what values have the parents instilled in these kids that make them think they can do anything and there are no consequences to their actions? I just don't get it...are you ignoring your children moms and dads? What's the story...how can a child hate so much? That's not a behavior you're born with, its a behavior you learn. And, it all started over a guy...come on girls...you're regressing to the cave-man era - duh...

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